COMPASSION
AND KINDNESS LANGUAGE
IN THE FAMILY
Honorable Muslims!
Islam has put an end to any kind of
bad words and habits of jahiliyya (period of ignorance), and built an “age of
bliss”, in which faith and good morality prevail. The Companions of the Prophet
(saw), which were the first to embrace of Islam, were a distinguished group
consisting of good-natured and eloquent people with good intentions. What befits
the following generations of them and to us today is to follow the footsteps of
the noble Companions (ra). We should reflect their lifestyle shaped according
to the Qur’an and developed according to the Sunnah; and be the pioneers of
good morality, compassion, and mercy.
Valuable
Believers!
Our closest people deserve to hear the
most beautiful words from us. Our family is most worthy of courtesy, tolerance,
they deserve the most attentive attitudes with love and respect. In this regard, our Prophet (saw) said, “The best of you is the
one who is best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family…”[1]
It is invaluable that the
Messenger of Allah (saw),
portrayed his relationship with his own family established on kindness and
beneficence as an example to us. Because family is the warmest atmosphere
in which we can experience love, peace and trust throughout our lives.
Esteemed Believers!
Through our
families, Allah the Almighty (swt) grants us the pleasure of being
grandparents, spouses, children, grandchildren, brothers, or sisters. Family is
the beauty of the mother’s heart, and the abundance of father’s home. It is
the depth of love and loyalty between spouses. It is
the width of the reverence and kindness that children show to their parents. Our Almighty Lord (swt) informs us of the
importance of a precious treasure as family in the Holy Qur’an as, “And of His signs is that He created for
you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed
between you, affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who
give thought.”[2]
Honorable Muslims!
A peaceful family is established with
love and sacrifice. It is kept alive with justice and conscience. It is protected by friendship and mercy. Even
in the most troubled moments, a couple of words of conciliation tighten the
bonds in the family back. If respect towards each individual prevails in a
family, mercy speaks while violence quiets. In a family where all people, women
and men, are put on the shield of mercy, no one can hurt one another even
through implication.
Indeed, our Beloved Prophet (saw) never hurt
anyone throughout his life. He was always
understanding, patient, kind and tolerant towards his wives. He invited us to see the positive aspects and be fair by saying, “A believer should not hate his/her spouse;
if they dislike one of his/her characteristics, he/she will be pleased with
another.”[3]
Honorable Muslims!
Good believers appreciate the value
of the family members who suffer the difficulties and sorrows of life with them
as well as sharing their happiness. They realize that they are entrusted to us
besides being a blessing of Allah for us. They comprehend that being a
believer, which means being a person “from whose hand and tongue people are
safe”, begins in the family.
A good spouse is committed to the
promise s/he made when s/he got married; they adhere to their covenant. A good
father is loved in his family for his just and merciful behaviors. He walks with family members on the way of
good, always in unity, arm-in-arm, and shoulder to shoulder.
Dear Muslims!
Peace and happiness in the family becomes permanent
through healthy communication. Our
Beloved Prophet (saw) said, “…he who
believes in Allah and in the last day should speak good or keep silence.”[4],
and always recommended believers to speak of good and pursue the good. As the addressees of this advice, we
should not withhold our smiling face, kind words, appreciation, and gratitude
from our family.
Esteemed Believers!
Let us
once again remember the value of our family, with whom we spend the life
journey together, with its ups and downs. Let us be affectionate and kind to
our spouses and children. Let us not cut off our nose to spite our face. Let us
neither hurt people nor get hurt ourselves. On the contrary, let us adopt being
merciful and virtuous to everybody and in any case as a principle in our lives.
Let us not
be the cause of unrest in the family, but the guarantee of happiness and trust. Let us
keep on saying this prayer that in taught to us by our Lord (swt) in the Holy
Qur’an: “Our Lord, grant us from among
our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes, and make us an example for the
righteous.’”[5]
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